Thursday, December 4, 2014

We Want to Hear From You


2 Corinthians 1:22   For our boast is this, the testimony of our conscience, that we behaved in the world with simplicity and godly sincerity, not by earthly wisdom but by the grace of God, and supremely so toward you.

The bible tells us that God is spirit and those who worship him should worship him in spirit and TRUTH. We believe that transparency can reach such a large audience, and it was put on our hearts from the Holy Spirit to do so. We would like to hear your feedback on our blog. Tell us some topics you would like for us to talk about. Leave comments on how you are feeling after reading our posts because we have so much more in store with our blog.

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16 comments:

  1. I would like to know what are some of your boundaries when it come to spending habits. How do you set boundaries between wants and needs and when is it good to slurge?

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    1. Good Morning,

      Our boundaries when it comes to spending is that we follow a financial budget, since we aren't married yet, we have our separate financial budgets that we follow. We understand the difference between what is a necessity and if something is simply just a want. We give ourselves a certain percentage of our income to treat ourselves to an item of our individual choice every pay period. It's important to know what your future goals are, i.e. (If you are saving for marriage, a house, putting your child through college, etc.) once you have established those goals, then a determination to save money will soon be applied to your everyday spending.

      XO,

      Mark & Brittney

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    2. Wonderful, this helps a lot.

      Thank you both for sharing your journey.

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    3. You are so welcome!

      XO,

      Brittney & Mark

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  2. What steps did you two take to re-establishing sexual purity?

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    1. Good Morning,

      We must admit it was very hard to re-establish sexual purity. After messing up continuously in the beginning of our relationship, Mark suggested that we do a fast, and in that fast we cut out sexual relations, certain foods, and drinking only water. We prayed the entire 21 days of this fast asking for forgiveness and a stronger mindset of wanting to stop having sex. It was hard for Mark being that he is a man, but if you both can be in agreeance about wanting to live right for God, and trust that God will stand by you no matter what, then you will be just fine.

      XO,

      Mark & Brittney

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  3. Beautiful testimony! There are quite a few women whose mentality is: "If you ain't got no money then I'ma keep it moving." So my question is: Didn't you get frustrated with having to help support Mark financially & pay for all the dinner dates? What motivated you or what was it about Mark that made you want to stick by him?

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    1. Good Morning Courtney,

      At times, I got EXTREMELY frustrated with having to cover the dates, support him financially but it was something about him in the beginning of our relationship that told me to be patient with him. I prayed a lot about it and asked God what should I do, and He mentioned to me Luke 6:48, "I will show you what he is like: he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when a flood arose, the stream broke against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built" God showed me his heart, he showed me that at this time in his life, he was still in the process of getting his house together. How can I give up on someone when I had JUST gotten my own life together? Would that be fair? What if it was me who was in this situation? All of those questions played in my head, and I decided to stick it out, and months later, look at the outcome of my relationship now because I listened to God; Mark has multiple streams of income, his own house, own car, he owns two businesses and I only pay for things NOW after begging him to pay. So I tell women who maybe in the same situation as I was, ask God to show you that person's heart, we all struggle at times, but if this person is meant to be your husband/wife, stick by them and let God mold you both into building a foundation together.

      XO,

      Brittney

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  4. .How can boundaries be set when going on getaways with a bf/gf?

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    1. Good Morning,

      When going on getaways with your boyfriend/girlfriend you first have to know the strengths of your relationship. If you two are currently practicing abstinence then going on getaways won't be as hard for you because you already have a deep understanding and communication in your relationship that you want to remain abstinent until marriage. If you are currently sexually active with each other, we wouldn't recommend you travel to getaways together until you are married. We didn't start traveling to getways together until April 2014, which was our trip to Jamaica and by this time we had a deep understanding that we are abstinent, we fasted from it months prior, and we know the blessings that come from remaining obedient to God. Many people asked how on earth do you go to Jamaica and not have sex in this beautiful place?! We laughed and said because our quality time together is more important than indulging in sexual activities before we are fully committed in front of God. So when we do take trips, we focus on exploring different adventures we've never done like swimming with dolphins and sharks, and zip lining, and so much other stuff in the world that we can have the memory to laugh and talk about! We say to couples all the time, if you really want to know if you love your boyfriend/girlfriend and you are sexually active with them, try cutting out sex for an entire 30 days and see if you still have that same spark/feeling you get when you are around them. If you do, that person maybe indeed your soul-mate, if you don't then you are in love with just the sex of them and you don't care about their actual soul. The bible tells us in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor." We follow what God tells us to do, yes it's extremely hard at times, but we know how to control our own bodies in honor of our Father and because of this, we've been extremely blessed in many areas of our lives.

      XO,

      Mark & Brittney

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    2. On 1 accord, I thank God for your response and transparency. I ask because I used to engage in getaways with sexual acts in my past, now I do understand the right thing to do. I was bound in a sexual relationship, controlling, abusive relationship. With a mindset I will hold him down loyal girlfriend. Lost so much connected with this individual. I mean everything I worked for, I never knew 1 human being would want to diminish my existence on this earth. And I started to feel I was unworthy. I thank God I was able to be removed by God after 10 years off and on, forgiving etc. Fasted/Prayed.. to only look up his character revealed he is now dating the girl that used to bully me in the past. Anyway, at least I have the knowledge on how to look forward to a God center relationship and mark & brittney you guys are teaching me that through your post and this blog. And just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I'm a doormat to anyone who doesn't appreciate me.... Day 1 of the fast ! :-) God bless

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    3. God bless you too! You are so welcome!

      XO,

      Mark & Brittney

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    4. Interesting responses, for a Christian who is now courting, that relationship shouldn't be as close to be going on getaways pre marriage. This couple is one that's totally not the norm, and are doing very very dangerous things. I pray everyone hoping to get in courtship or grow in courtship, look to biblical characters like Boaz and Ruth , Isaac and Rebecca for the ultimate examples.

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    5. Hi Janet,

      Thank you for your response. Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to traveling during the courting stages, and many couples who practice abstinence can still travel together without it being very dangerous so it's really about your own preference in your walk with God and your relationship. For us, it's not a struggle or issue or dangerous for us. The bible tells us in Romans 14:1-13, "As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand. One person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind." You have to be strong in your own personal walk with God and if we've been abstinent for a year, traveling together won't make it any different and that's us. You can call us "not normal" but the Bible tells us only He can judge. We study biblical characters and we know the bible really well and we thank you for your response my sister!

      XO,

      Brittney & Mark

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  5. God continue to bless y'all friendship n relationship so much... I ve learned a lot from this post!! I adore both of you guys..

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